Hey, guys. It’s Bex here. Welcome to another
video in my series, “You Have Four Minutes for Meditation.” Today’s meditation is by
request, and it’s all about rejection. I’m wondering – who are all these people rejecting you guys? Call me. I will handle them for you. Rejection can be a tricky topic because none
of us like to be told that we’re not good enough or that we’re not wanted. But is that
what rejection is about? Are we putting too many of our own feelings and insecurities
into someone else’s reaction to us? I’m going to offer you some words that hopefully
will help ease the sting of being rejected, whether it’s by a guy or a girl or a job or
whatever. I want you to be okay with not being wanted so much. Is it possible? Totally.
I’m going to set my timer for four minutes because that’s all it takes to reconnect with
yourself and to tell yourself that you’re worthy of spending time on. I want you to
find your comfortable seat. This could be anywhere that you can get nice and quiet and
not be disturbed. I’m sitting on my floor on a comfortable meditation pillow, but you
can be on your couch or in your car –whatever feels right.
Sit with your legs crossed, one foot in front of the other, or in lotus or half lotus — whatever
works for you. Definitely don’t strain, injure or cause any pain to yourself during a meditation.
You may have your hands downturned on your knees or upturned to receive the energy around
you. Your eyes may be opened and softly focused on something across the room, or closed to
remove any visual distractions. As soon as you’re sitting up nice and tall,
we can begin. Now if you’re ready, let’s get started.
Bring your focus to your breath, and with your next inhale, bring your shoulders up
to your ears…exhale and roll your shoulder blades down your spine. Sit up nice and tall
with the crown of you head pointed towards the sky and your chin parallel with the floor.
Whatever your breath is doing in this moment, just allow it. Don’t try to change it. Observe
your heartbeat. Observe your posture. Observe whatever feelings may be rushing over you
or traveling gently through you. Observe without any judgment at all. You’re in the right place
at the right time. Let’s go back for a moment to what I said
about attaching your own feelings, your own insecurities, to what others feel about you.
Pay close attention to the reactions of others so that you may see exactly what they’re saying.
It is rarely, “You’re not good enough.” It is rarely, “You are not loved.” But that’s
what we say to ourselves. Let me offer that rejection is more about
what we feel about ourselves than what others say or feel about us. That sadness, that feeling
of rejection, is really just a reflection of how we feel about ourselves. So let’s change
the dialogue. I am enough for me in this moment. I have
so much to offer. If I’m not a fit for you, that’s fine, because I fit in just fine where
I am. I attract people who will love and appreciate me, who will honor and respect me, who will
value my talents, who will want me, who will desire me, and who will appreciate all I have
to offer. I am enough for me. I am worthy of love. I
have earned respect. If I’m not the right fit for you, that’s okay. I am the right it
for me. I am perfect in this moment. I am in this perfect moment. I am perfectly matched
with my current space, with my environment, and with the people who I have attracted and
will attract into this space. I will no longer feel the things about myself that make me
feel rejected, because I am accepted. Continue to breathe, recognizing how your
breath has changed, and recognizing how you feel even more comfortable in your seat. Allow
yourself to be in this moment in peace, and thank yourself for this gift.
Take one last deep inhale and exhale with me. Inhale to feel the breath pass through
your throat, through your chest and into your soft, easy, relaxed belly. Exhale and release
all air completely, starting with your belly, your lungs, and then out through your nose
or your mouth. You are completely relaxed and refreshed feeling safe, secure, and happy
with yourself in this moment. Inhale to open your eyes…ahhhh! We’re so
awesome! We’re so loved by ourselves and each other! Who needs those people who don’t need
us right now? That’s all it is: we just don’t fit what they need right now, and that’s perfectly
okay because we’re a fit for ourselves, for this moment, and for every opportunity that’s
about to come our way. We are a fit for all the wonderful, energetic, vibrant, and vital
people who are going to come into our lives and love us the way we need to be loved.
So get rid of all those feelings about yourselves that are bringing on those feelings of rejection.
Shoo them away because that’s not what’s really happening. That’s not the message that you’re
really being sent. It’s just what you’re receiving because of your own stuff that’s going on.
So let it go. Let it go. I’m not going to sing there.
I love you guys. Thank you so much for joining me for another meditation. I love your requests,
as you can plainly see, so leave them in the comments below. I will see you soon in another
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