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Meditation for Rejection, Self-Esteem, Divorce – How to Meditate for Beginners – BEXLIFE


Hey, guys. It’s Bex here. Welcome to another
video in my series, “You Have Four Minutes for Meditation.” Today’s meditation is by
request, and it’s all about rejection. I’m wondering – who are all these people rejecting you guys? Call me. I will handle them for you. Rejection can be a tricky topic because none
of us like to be told that we’re not good enough or that we’re not wanted. But is that
what rejection is about? Are we putting too many of our own feelings and insecurities
into someone else’s reaction to us? I’m going to offer you some words that hopefully
will help ease the sting of being rejected, whether it’s by a guy or a girl or a job or
whatever. I want you to be okay with not being wanted so much. Is it possible? Totally.
I’m going to set my timer for four minutes because that’s all it takes to reconnect with
yourself and to tell yourself that you’re worthy of spending time on. I want you to
find your comfortable seat. This could be anywhere that you can get nice and quiet and
not be disturbed. I’m sitting on my floor on a comfortable meditation pillow, but you
can be on your couch or in your car –whatever feels right.
Sit with your legs crossed, one foot in front of the other, or in lotus or half lotus — whatever
works for you. Definitely don’t strain, injure or cause any pain to yourself during a meditation.
You may have your hands downturned on your knees or upturned to receive the energy around
you. Your eyes may be opened and softly focused on something across the room, or closed to
remove any visual distractions. As soon as you’re sitting up nice and tall,
we can begin. Now if you’re ready, let’s get started.
Bring your focus to your breath, and with your next inhale, bring your shoulders up
to your ears…exhale and roll your shoulder blades down your spine. Sit up nice and tall
with the crown of you head pointed towards the sky and your chin parallel with the floor.
Whatever your breath is doing in this moment, just allow it. Don’t try to change it. Observe
your heartbeat. Observe your posture. Observe whatever feelings may be rushing over you
or traveling gently through you. Observe without any judgment at all. You’re in the right place
at the right time. Let’s go back for a moment to what I said
about attaching your own feelings, your own insecurities, to what others feel about you.
Pay close attention to the reactions of others so that you may see exactly what they’re saying.
It is rarely, “You’re not good enough.” It is rarely, “You are not loved.” But that’s
what we say to ourselves. Let me offer that rejection is more about
what we feel about ourselves than what others say or feel about us. That sadness, that feeling
of rejection, is really just a reflection of how we feel about ourselves. So let’s change
the dialogue. I am enough for me in this moment. I have
so much to offer. If I’m not a fit for you, that’s fine, because I fit in just fine where
I am. I attract people who will love and appreciate me, who will honor and respect me, who will
value my talents, who will want me, who will desire me, and who will appreciate all I have
to offer. I am enough for me. I am worthy of love. I
have earned respect. If I’m not the right fit for you, that’s okay. I am the right it
for me. I am perfect in this moment. I am in this perfect moment. I am perfectly matched
with my current space, with my environment, and with the people who I have attracted and
will attract into this space. I will no longer feel the things about myself that make me
feel rejected, because I am accepted. Continue to breathe, recognizing how your
breath has changed, and recognizing how you feel even more comfortable in your seat. Allow
yourself to be in this moment in peace, and thank yourself for this gift.
Take one last deep inhale and exhale with me. Inhale to feel the breath pass through
your throat, through your chest and into your soft, easy, relaxed belly. Exhale and release
all air completely, starting with your belly, your lungs, and then out through your nose
or your mouth. You are completely relaxed and refreshed feeling safe, secure, and happy
with yourself in this moment. Inhale to open your eyes…ahhhh! We’re so
awesome! We’re so loved by ourselves and each other! Who needs those people who don’t need
us right now? That’s all it is: we just don’t fit what they need right now, and that’s perfectly
okay because we’re a fit for ourselves, for this moment, and for every opportunity that’s
about to come our way. We are a fit for all the wonderful, energetic, vibrant, and vital
people who are going to come into our lives and love us the way we need to be loved.
So get rid of all those feelings about yourselves that are bringing on those feelings of rejection.
Shoo them away because that’s not what’s really happening. That’s not the message that you’re
really being sent. It’s just what you’re receiving because of your own stuff that’s going on.
So let it go. Let it go. I’m not going to sing there.
I love you guys. Thank you so much for joining me for another meditation. I love your requests,
as you can plainly see, so leave them in the comments below. I will see you soon in another
BexLife video. See you around. Get free meditations, mantras, detox, diet
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Joseph Wolf

39 Comments

  1. This is amazing! Thank you for all that you're doing!
    I would love to have a meditation for the times you're "homesick", missing your family, country, feeling lonely. I'm only 17 and I'll have to leave my country and go from Europe to Asia for 3 months. I'm very excited for all of this but at the same time I'm scared that I will not know how to handle the "missing my family" part because I'm pretty bad at this…Β 
    Thank you! You're a true role model. xoxo

  2. This meditation comes in the right moment! Thanks! πŸ™‚

  3. serendipity, I just last week had the revelation that I'm so scared of judgement and with that fear I was protecting myself with judging myself first and only concentrating on that. All that fear and thinking just made me incapable of just looking in other peoples eyes because I was so sure that there would only be rejection and judgement about me being not good enough. I finally also found an event in my childhood that brought up this thinking. I can now say that I'm finally letting go of that fear and constant imagining others to be judging me. It's a process and sometimes easier and other times not possible but I'm grateful that I finally understood that I am the one who is judging myself and everybody is just living their own life and not really "caring" about how I look or act. Thank you again for reminding me of that and for that awesome meditation. Sending love to you and your family <3

  4. Thank you Rebekah. You have no idea how helpful you are to us!

  5. This was incredible. I didn't even know I needed this today, but I thank you for making my day and making me feel happy with everything I am today.Β 

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  7. I've been feeling more than amazing these days and I would like a meditation about embracing happiness and positivities. I know meditation helps with fixing problems but there should be some just to stay positive and on the right path πŸ™‚ thank you for your meditations you are truly an inspiration and you make me want to love myself even more everyday.

  8. Thank you! I'm going to not only Like this video, but replay this one often and share it w/friends!!!

  9. Oh, I wanted to ask about meditations on being nervous or anxiousness. I get nervous speaking in crowds and it's hard letting my personality shine when asked to speak.

  10. Thank you so much for this.! I needed it ❀️
    Awesome video.

  11. I am good enough, i am perfect in my own way, i just don't fit your right now, and that's okay.

  12. Love this meditation Bex! One of my favourites so far πŸ™‚ I would like to leave a request here for some longer meditations. I love all of your four minute sessions, but one of my favourites was your "Mediation for crazy bitches" which was a bit longer. I would love to see a few more of those! Take care Bex! xoxo

  13. I am so happy I found you!! You gave me the opportunity to discover meditation and I really thank you for that! This video made me cry because I realized that I am so insecure and I have all those negative feelings and thoughts about myself. I am sure that with your helpful videos I will change that! Thank you!

  14. For some reason I'm not getting your newsletter.. Even though I'm signed into by email. How can I get it?

  15. Love this! Can you do one about letting go of control? I am a control freak and I need to realize its all gonna be ok

  16. Thank you so much for making this video, this was exactely what I needed to hear so much so that I had to cry some happy tears as I felt the heavy load fall off my shoulders. Walking tall today πŸ˜€

  17. Thank you so much for helping me achieve this warm relaxing feeling that I have now, I feel much much better we love you !!!!

  18. i got divorced recently…n now i am searchin for a new partner .but all i am facing is rejections..coz the moment prospects come to know dat i am a divorcee ,they reject my proposal.inindia its quite difficult getting married once u get divorced ,no matter how gud ,how qualified u r.m a doctor an anaesthetist.i still feel low,unloved ,uncared for,…

  19. Thank you so much Miss Bex. I submitted my CV this morning to apply as a student assistant and was told just now that I didn't get the job. This meditation reminded me not to lose track of my self worth

  20. Thank u bex!i love this!!im goin through divorce , anxiety is getting worse and so depression.this helps me have the warm feelings.more vids please!love u thanksπŸ˜„πŸ€—

  21. Thank You Thank you..I feel relived and I also shed a few tears during meditation. I have been going through so much with my husband and it has left me very self conscious of myself and very low self esteem.

  22. One video can change so much. This video and your words freed me. I repeat this video every day and I see the change in me. With you, I am learning meditation for the first time. Thank you, Rebekah.

  23. Thank you. I was a mess today and I needed that. Think I'll go out and stop wallowing now 😊

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  25. I was really into some guy who seemed really great and kind hearted and he just ghosted me. For no reason. Didn't respond to me. It surprisingly has hurt my feelings quite a lot. I don't have answers and don't know why. So I'm here! Thanks for this!

  26. I don’t know where you came up with this meditation video, but wow this was beyond helpful. Thanks Bex.

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