How to Plan Your Life (Interactive Exercise)

Hi everyone! Welcome back to Lavendaire. Today we’re gonna talk about
how to plan out your life from the big picture to the little details. So this video’s gonna be a little different. It’s an interactive exercise,
which means you’re gonna work along with the video. Before I get into it, I’m gonna do a giveaway
at the end of this video. I’m gonna be giving out, yes, three Artist
of Life Workbooks for you guys to help you plan your best year. If you don’t know what this is,
this is a workbook that I created with a bunch of exercises inside. Oh, this is my copy where I’ve actually filled
it out. But if you want to learn more,
there are links there and down below to learn more about this workbook. So, when planning out your life, I personally
like to start with the big picture, the ultimate life goals. What is your grand vision for your life? What kind of legacy do you want to leave on
this earth? These are really big questions
and it’s very daunting to answer, I understand completely. And I understand that, depending on where
you are in your life journey, you might not have figured it out just yet. Because when I was in college,
I had no idea what that big picture looked like. So it’s up to you. If you know what your big picture idea is,
then take this time to jot down everything that you want to accomplish in your life. What are your big dreams for your life? And if you’re scared and you feel like this
section is too difficult, then just fast forward the video. Continue on, and then later you can come back
and do this big picture section at the end. It’s also up to you what timeline you want
to use for your big picture goals. So big picture can mean five years from now,
ten years from now, even fifty years from now. So it’s up to you what you want to use. There’s no right or wrong way. Whatever inspires you, whatever drives you
and motivates you. So if you need help in this section, I’d recommend
you check out some other videos that I have. I have one called “How to Figure Out What
to Do With Your Life” which helps you find your ikigai AKA sweet
spot on what to do with your life. And then another video called “How to Plan
Your Dream Life” which goes into an exercise called “Vivid
Vision” that helps you really illustrate and paint out the picture of your ideal life. Alright, now that you’ve mapped out your big
picture goals, put them in your phone, in your computer, on your wall. Put them where you will read them daily,
because you want to constantly be reminded of where you’re headed, where you’re going. So your big picture goals are essentially
your compass in life. They help you steer yourself
in the right direction so that you don’t veer off your path for too long. Sometimes, if we don’t have those big picture
goals and dreams in mind, we end up just settling in another direction
or we get lost and, you know what I mean? So you want to focus on what you want out
of life and make sure you’re taking small steps in that direction. It’s okay to change your big picture goals
because nothing is set in stone. So along the way,
if you feel like these goals don’t suit you anymore, feel free to change them. Alright, now it’s time to set your yearly
goals. And I’m sure a lot of you have done this already,
but it’s good to kind of get a refresh now that you’ve elaborated on your big picture
goals. How can you break that down and how can you
pick what is the next important steps for me to take in order to get closer to that
dream life. So just look at your goals, ask yourself:
“What is possible for me to accomplish in one year to take me closer to my dreams?” I know that the dreams might seem really far
off right now. Don’t worry about that. Just focus on: What’s the next immediate step
that can take me one baby step closer? Write out your goals, and don’t forget to
dig deep into all the different areas of life. Not just career, but also your health, your relationships,
personal growth, creativity, spirituality, adventure goals, whether you
have travel goals. Explore what your dream life looks like in
all of these different areas. And then decide what goals you want to focus
on for 2018. Alright, now that you have your yearly goals
written down, look at your goals and decide what you want to prioritize to
focus on for this first quarter of 2018. The quarter is three months, so this first
quarter is January through March. A lot can be done in three months. You just have to plan to focus on something
for three months in order to get it done. So it’s better to focus on one thing,
instead of multiple things at once. So when you focus on one thing,
you can complete that one thing in the set amount of time,
whether it’s one month, two months, or three months. But if you try to attack all your goals at
once, then you’re gonna take longer to accomplish those goals, and it might feel
like you won’t pick up momentum because you’re like, “Ugh, nothing’s moving,”
or “Everything’s moving so slowly.” So it’s better to focus. Pick one, two, or three things max, to focus
on for the quarter. Alright, now that you’ve decided what you
want to focus on this quarter, it’s time to break it down further into your
next action items. So for each goal or focus you’ve created for
this quarter, break down what are the immediate next step action items I
need to take in order to achieve this goal? So brainstorm as much as you can think of. And don’t worry, it doesn’t have to be in
exact order. All that matters is that you’re putting all
the steps onto paper. Alright, now that you have your next action
items list going, it’s time to prioritize yet again and star the top three action items that you need to do first. So prioritize: What is the most important
action items that you could take towards these goals? Star three of them right now. So the action items that you’ve starred, make
sure you put them into your to do list, your planner, whatever your system is, make
sure you put it somewhere so that you remember to get it done ASAP. Personally, I like to use an app
like Wunderlist or Trello to decide what to-dos to do next. But it’s totally up to you. You can use whatever system you want. By the way, if you find that some of your
goals are more ongoing and lifestyle-based, you can’t really break them down into to-do lists and stuff, then those goals should go onto your ideal habits list. So for example, if you want to exercise more,
eat healthier, meditate every day, those are more ongoing goals and lifestyle
goals. So those, you would put onto your habits list. And for your ideal habits list, I would break
it down into daily habits and weekly habits. For me, I like to break down my daily habits
into morning and evening routines. Morning habits would be meditating and writing
morning pages. Evening habits would be reading and doing
skincare. And then weekly habits would be doing yoga
and exercising two or three times a week. Make sure you also keep this habits list on
your phone or write it down somewhere so that you see what you’re working towards. And it’s helpful if you create
a tracking system to track how often you’re doing these habits
so that you’re accountable for yourself. For example, in the workbook we have a habit
tracker where I’ve been ticking off all the times I’ve been
doing these habits, so you actually get a visual for how you’re
doing towards your goals. Lastly I’ll leave you guys with this quote:
“Most people overestimate what they can do in one year, and underestimate what they can
do in 10 years.” This means we have kind of a warped perception
of time. We think that we can accomplish so much in
one year, and so we set all of these goals, and then we feel down when we don’t meet all
of our goals every year. But on the flip side, if you look at the past
ten years, how much you’ve accomplished in ten years
is quite amazing. So if you look forward the next ten years,
you can actually accomplish so much more than you think. So give yourself a little more time to reach
those big picture goals. I know that, naturally, we want to get everything
done ASAP. We want to meet all these goals, we want to
be successful like yesterday, basically. But great things take time, so be patient,
persevere, keep going. Maybe don’t set so many crazy goals in one
year. Just really prioritize and handpick
what’s the most important to you. And take it slow. Slow and steady, you know what I mean? So now it’s time to move onto our giveaway. If you want a chance to win this Artist of
Life Workbook, then comment down below on what is your focus for this quarter. And feel free to share more of your goals,
feel free to share your big picture goals. I’ll be picking three winners from the comments
section down below. And if you win, I’m gonna comment on your
comment, so make sure you have the YouTube notifications
turned on so that you know that I commented on your message. Normally I do my giveaways on Instagram because
it’s easier to DM people on Instagram. I’ve had people complain like, “Why don’t
you ever do giveaways on YouTube?” so this time I’m going to try to do a giveaway
on YouTube. The problem is it’s hard
to get in contact with you guys because no one really checks their messages on YouTube. I mean, we’re gonna figure a system out. If you won, I will comment on your comment
and then instructions will follow. Hopefully you reply and then we’ll communicate
the details later. Anyway, if you want a sure chance of getting
the Artist of Life Workbook, then you can check out my shop right there
in the corner. Link is also down below. We’re gonna probably sell out of these by,
I don’t know, March or April? So if you want a copy, get it in the beginning
of the year, before it sells out because I’m not ordering any more stock. Just letting you guys know. Alright, have a beautiful day. Love you guys so much. And I’ll see you guys in the next one. Bye!

Joseph Wolf


  1. 🌻 UPDATE: GIVEAWAY CLOSED! Congrats to our winners Jennifer Marie, Katherine Lin, & Elleine San Andres!

    You can still get the 2018 Artist of Life Workbook here: http://lavendaire.com/shop

  2. I love you. I am totally getting that workbook! (Where have you been all my life)

    Much love from the Philippines x

  3. Hey, its wonderful systematic planning ..thanks for sharing this .

  4. Yasss yesss! I’ve just recently stumbled upon this channel and I can’t even begin to express how much I am in need of this. I’m reading self help books and trying to change my life towards a more positive and productive lifestyle. But it’s so hard to find accountability and like minded individuals. So this channel is such a blessing as I continue to immerse myself in the good vibes, hardworking mindset 🙂

  5. Your videos are everything my life needs! Can’t thank you enough. And I really like the way you dress. Why don’t you also add comments on what you’re wearing and where did you buy a particular dress in your videos? Or maybe add a link?
    Thanks 😍😍

  6. Hi! I want to buy your book, but I'm from Mexico. How can I do it? HELP!

  7. I know the competition is closed but I’m
    Going to write it anyway as what you put out to the universe is more likely to come back to you… I’m writing tv and film scripts, I have anxiety disorder and life is difficult at times but I’ve been working towards my goal for 29 years, I’m making my first tv trailer next month to go to commission, you cannot succeed unless you focus and persevere and never ever give up, your videos help me as I’m on my own, thankyou and please keep making them 🙂 x

  8. Could you do a video that's more long term goals? Like 5 year plans type of planning?

  9. all my goals are based on personal improvement. I honestly couldnt care less about money. I am a spiritual person and have always been. In fact everyone is, most of them are tuned out. I really wanna grow and become the best version of myself. and yes like you said it takes time

  10. I feel such a renewed sense of focus, and excitement. This is just what I needed. Thank you so very much! <3

  11. I would love to get one of those notebooks but I don’t have money but I’m just using on of those 50 cent not books😌

  12. this is very helpful. thank you so much for making this video. Hello from the Philippines!

  13. My goal is to raise enough money to build my own mansion but my first goal is to finish school and go to college amd finish that too. I am only planning on to have one kid XD:)well k bye.

  14. Nice video, thanks. I have begun creating similar but unique content to get the message out their.

  15. Aileen, this video was SO helpful. I've been dealing with anxiety for about 2 years now and I thought that doing this was going to make me even more anxious but I WAS SO WRONG. It feels amazing to actually picture what I want and how to achieve it in a certain amount of time. I feel like I have a direction to follow and it makes me feel SO relieved. Thank you so much!

  16. This was helpful, though I need to tackle more than one major goal at once right now because I let my life get too messy and negative. Dealing with a list of habits and forcing a change in routine has been working for me, though I have been building the list over time.

  17. for 2019
    greetinsgs from Morocco , thank you so much for your amazing efforts ! my goals for this year are :
    1- to teach myself mandarin chinese
    2- to reach advanced level in my italian
    3-to have a diplomat at patissery ( i love to learn how to make cakes …)
    4-to learn at least the basics of the Arabic caligraphy ( its my mother tangue )
    5- to take care of my health more , learn how to deal with my soul & body as well ( reading , meditation )
    6- to learn how to let go , forgive & free myself from stress and the fear of being alone , neglected , because im going to hit 29 soon , the stress on me from my family is high to get marry otherwise no one will want me if i hit 30 , 31 as they say !
    7- to learn how to purify my heart to find peace in order to love my self again & others freely , and to let it be a suitable place for my unknown future love .
    8_ learn to make my personal journal.
    note : iam ambitious & hard worker , but also dipressed so i might add or remove some goal according to my capacity when get to work

    thank you

  18. The link to purchase the workbook no longer works. Are you still selling these? Love this!

  19. Love love love 💖. Can’t wait till 2019 comes out please let me know when it’s available please

  20. you don't know hiw you helped me with that useful video . interactive practical video .I love such videos bu I love you more

  21. I really love the way you explain things.. In detail.. I am Heartfully and mindfully connected to your videos.. Mam.. Thank you so much for such wonderful and inspiring videos…

  22. I want to settle my master dgree first . 3 priority things: thesis, publish paper, conference. thank you for your advise 😀

  23. I know I’m a year late but I want to thank you for this video. I’ve just finished university and this video has brought clarity in how I look at my future. I will try implement the steps you have recommended. Thanks Alieen 😊

  24. Thank you so much.. your channel is so inspiring… you are brilliant to know all those information in your age!
    I like your channel so much.. I’m 40 years old.. staying home mom.. planning to go back to my graphic design career..

  25. I love this and I’m so grateful for finding this video. I don’t regret choosing this for my new 2019 life plan. Subscribed and post notifications on!💕

  26. Recently found your channel. I'm incredibly excited to have found it. I love love love the interactive part. Subscribed and excited to follow! Thank you!

  27. I love you so much I'd watch your videos the whole day. I have so many goals and one of them is to be consistent and focused thank you so much ..you motivate me alot❤❤

  28. Watching this in 2019.

    My goals this year is:

    Read more
    Meditate/workout daily
    Focus on myself more

    I can't think of anything else but I will keep u updated tho.😍

    Btw I love ur channel🖤🌙

  29. Lavedaire, I watched your videos couple of years ago. Now’s the first time I came across your channel for the last 2 years – you changed a lot. I remember you telling that when you were younger your life was a mess. Two years ago you achieved a lot, was super organized, healthy, calm. But now I see even more progress! You’re superb❤️


  31. Me encanto! Ame tu video ! Todas tus recomendaciones normalmente tengo muchos inconvenientes con hacer rendir mi tiempo pero con esas forma en la que detalles meta por meta y como destacar cada detalle quede fascinada es el primer video que veo tuyo y wow quede muy feliz ❤ Muchisimas gracias todo lo anote paso a paso y de verdad espero lograr mis metas y ser mas proactiva durante el dia ❤❤❤

  32. Yes, thank so much Lavendaire. In life, you will be off course most of the time. No matter how carefully you plan and organize in advance, your life will be a series of two steps forward and one step back. You will have to start, stop, go left or right, move under or over obstacles, and often retrace your steps. These are the essential experiences you require to become the kind of person you need to be to achieve any kind of lasting success. I read about that from book..!

  33. My goals for the next years (my timeline is 5 years) build my personnel confident, to be a public speaker to influence others and to share my thoughts and ideas with confidence, I want to get to a scholarship to study abroad in the United States.

  34. Fantastic video! Thank you for sharing this motivation energy!

  35. I like big ideas 💡 which are useful but I don’t like the little details I’m 11 planing to grow and build a house for my parents and live with them (don’t want to marry) I’m looking for decent house designs

  36. You literally just became my favorite channel and podcast. Can’t wait to watch and listen to everything! Sending so many positive vibrations your way! 🧡✌🏼☀️

  37. Too much movement with the hands.. I know they sayonara should talked with the hands in video but this one was too much

  38. Thankyou very much! because of this video, I can plan my life much better and yeaa sometimes I got lost and just feel the empty about my life. Just remember about this quote : If you fail to plan, then you plan to fail. Have a good day everyone!<3

  39. Watching this in 2019 so I couldn't do 2018 lol. Great video, definitely earned a new subscriber!

  40. Você coloca legendas em português ❤. Amei!! Se puder colocar nos outros também seria maravilhoso!!

  41. Presently my goal it to go back to school and complete my education because i want to be a graduate

  42. I am just 17 years old but I feel like, I have this urge of planning my life as early as now coz I dont think I'll live long. And, I also feel lost and I dont like that kind of feeling. I hope your gonna help me with it.

  43. Will you be making one for 2020 soon? PS, I am so glad I started really watching your videos. Going through a deep soul search portion of my life as of late, and your videos are helping me figure things out. Thank you so much!

  44. My 10 year goal is to graduate college (Cambridge or Oxford Universities) as a Generalist Doctor…

  45. My ultimate goal is to become successful in life fight my fears open up a little more , think about about the positive things that’s going in my life .. and also stop overthinking everything

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